Getting your toddler out of your bed.

Ah, the joys of co-sleeping. Sure you may think that you get more shut-eye by having them in bed with you, but is it true. I mean how comfortable could it be having a three-year-old kicking you in the ribs all the time? So how do we get them off to their bed and gain ours back?

Well, first you must ask yourself if it is truly the right time to start the transmission? If you have something else going on like a vacation, new baby, new pet or potty training happening it is probably not the best time to start.


Once you find the best time frame to start, be sure to keep along with your bedtime routine. Bath, book, teeth bed, make sure it stays consistent. Now comes the hard part, laying them in their own bed. Having a bed in your room while may seem like an easier transition to make is not recommended, those little feet will crawl into your bed faster than you can fall asleep. Key is putting them in their bed.


Letting them cry it out is an “old” method that many moms, including myself, just can’t handle. Instead, I would recommend pre-prepping the toddler for bedtime. Explaining several times throughout the day that only mom and dad sleep in that room.

Another form is laying with them in their bed until they fall asleep. Sure it may seem like a futile effort since the point is not sleeping with them, but you can sneak away once they fall asleep. The reality is they will wake up at some point and either cry or sneak off into your bed, here is the hard part, you have to stick to putting them in their bed.


Did they start crying? Comfort them, remind them your bed is only for mommy and daddy. If that is not alone enough lay with them until asleep once again and then leave. Did they sneak into your bed? Without making a fuss quietly walk them back to their bed and employ the methods above.


At the end of the day, maybe one of these methods will work for you. Perhaps you will need to try all, and the key is patience and persistence. Be sure that you don’t give in and let them back into the bed, and it may cause confusion in the child and make it harder to have them in their own beds.


The Pro’s and Con’s of Co-Sleeping

There are many challenges when you talk about babies and sleeping. With us, we co-sleep, and our challenges are clear, and I like to think very commonly amongst co-sleeping parents.

First off, yes our son sleeps in our bed. I know there are many risks to having a child in your bed, but I do try to minimize the ‘standard’ risks as much as possible. One he doesn’t use a pillow. Secondly, he sleeps on my side, not in between my husband and me. I have a barrier to make sure he cannot roll off the bed.

One thing that sucks is when he goes to sleep I have to go to bed as well. If he stirs and I am not beside him, he will instantly wake up and bed time will be prolonged for another two or three hours. Sure maybe that is because he also breastfeeds, but I do believe this is due to the co-sleeping. The lack of body warmth beside him wakes him quickly.

Another challenge is the lack of sleep. You may have heard that you get more sleep with co-sleeping, but that is just not true. While my son only wakes up for milk once a night, every time he moves or stirs I wake up. Call it mommy instincts or what have you, but the number of times I wake up outweigh the ‘extra’ sleep I get by already being in bed after breastfeeding.

Now it’s not all horrible. One thing that co-sleeping was wonderful for was breastfeeding. We are now going on 11 months of exclusively breastfeeding.

It also helps put the baby back to sleep quicker during those midnight feedings. For one they are already in bed, and your body warmth will quickly lul them back to sleep. Which will help overall the amount that your baby sleeps.

My son is currently 11 months old. We still co-sleep, but lately the minimal amount of sleep has had me thinking it is time to get him to his own bed. There is only so many cups of coffee this mama can consume in a day!